Birthdays in the Jewish Tradition by Tzvi Sinensky "They cast a pur, that is the lot." A Tanna taught: When the lot fell on the month of Adar, he rejoiced greatly saying: The lot has fallen for me on the month in which Moses died. He did not know, however, that Moses died on the seventh of Adar and was born on the seventh of Adar. Rashi on Megillah 13b:15:3 And on the seventh of Adar he was born - As it is written, "I am 120 years old today" (Devarim 31) - today my days and years are filled. Birth is sufficiently weighty to atone for death. 讘专讗砖讬转 诪׳:讻׳(讻) 讜ַ讬ְ讛ִ֣讬 ׀ 讘ַּ讬ּ֣讜ֹ诐 讛ַ砖ְּׁ诇ִ讬砖ִׁ֗讬 讬֚讜ֹ诐 讛ֻ诇ֶּ֣讚ֶ转 讗ֶ转־驻ַּ专ְ注ֹ֔讛 讜ַ讬ַּ֥注ַ砖ׂ 诪ִ砖ְׁ转ֶּ֖讛 诇ְ讻ָ诇־注ֲ讘ָ讚ָ֑讬讜 讜ַ讬ִּ砖ָּׂ֞讗 讗ֶ转־专ֹ֣讗砖ׁ ׀ 砖ַׂ֣专 讛ַ诪ַּ砖ְׁ拽ִ֗讬诐 讜ְ讗ֶ转־专ֹ֛讗砖ׁ 砖ַׂ֥专 讛ָ讗ֹ驻ִ֖讬诐 讘ְּ转֥讜ֹ讱ְ 注ֲ讘ָ讚ָֽ讬讜׃ Genesis 40:20(20) And it came to pass the third day, which was Pharaoh's birthday, that he made a feast unto all his servants; and he lifted up the head of the chief butler and the head of the chief baker among his servants. 拽讛诇转 讝׳:讗׳(讗) 讟֥讜ֹ讘 砖ֵׁ֖诐 诪ִ砖ֶּׁ֣诪ֶ谉 讟֑讜ֹ讘 讜ְ讬֣讜ֹ诐 讛ַ诪ָּ֔讜ֶ转 诪ִ讬ּ֖讜ֹ诐 讛ִ讜ָּ诇ְ讚ֽ讜ֹ׃ Ecclesiastes 7:1(1) A good name is better than precious oil; And the day of death than the day of one's birth. Eruvin 13b:14It was taught in a Braisa: For two-and-a-half years the house of Shammai and the house of Hillel argued. These said: Better for man never to have been created than to have been created. And these said: Better for man to have been created that not to have been created. They counted and decided: Better for man never to have been created than to have been created. Now that he has been created, he should sift through his actions. And there are those who say he should examine his actions. 诪砖谞讛 注讘讜讚讛 讝专讛 讙׳:讗׳ (讗) 讻诇 讛爪诇诪讬诐 讗住讜专讬诐, 诪驻谞讬 砖讛谉 谞注讘讚讬谉 驻注诐 讗讞转 讘砖谞讛, 讚讘专讬 专讘讬 诪讗讬专. 讜讞讻诪讬诐 讗讜诪专讬诐, 讗讬谞讜 讗住讜专 讗诇讗 讻诇 砖讬砖 讘讬讚讜 诪拽诇 讗讜 爪驻讜专 讗讜 讻讚讜专. 专讘谉 砖诪注讜谉 讘谉 讙诪诇讬讗诇 讗讜诪专, 讻诇 砖讬砖 讘讬讚讜 讻诇 讚讘专. Mishnah Avodah Zarah 3:1 (1) All images are prohibited, because each one is worshiped once a year, according to Rabbi Meir. But the Sages say: Only that which has in its hand a stick, or a bird, or an orb is prohibited. Rabban Shimon ben Gamliel says: Any that has anything in its hand [is prohibited]. 诪砖谞讛 转讜专讛, 讛诇讻讜转 注讘讜讚讛 讝专讛 讜讞讜拽讜转 讛讙讜讬讬诐 讟׳:讛׳ (讛) 讬讜ֹ诐 砖ֶׁ诪ִּ转ְ讻ַּ谞ְּ住ִ讬谉 讘ּ讜ֹ 注讜ֹ讘ְ讚ֵ讬 讻ּ讜ֹ讻ָ讘ִ讬诐 诇ְ讛ַ注ֲ诪ִ讬讚 诇ָ讛ֶ谉 诪ֶ诇ֶ讱ְ 讜ּ诪ַ拽ְ专ִ讬讘ִ讬谉 讜ּ诪ְ拽ַ诇ְּ住ִ讬诐 诇ֵ讗诇ֹ讛ֵ讬讛ֶ诐 讬讜ֹ诐 讞ַ讙ָּ诐 讛讜ּ讗 讜ַ讛ֲ专ֵ讬 讛讜ּ讗 讻ִּ砖ְׁ讗ָ专 讞ַ讙ֵּ讬讛ֶ诐 讗ֲ讘ָ诇 注讜ֹ讘ֵ讚 讻ּ讜ֹ讻ָ讘ִ讬诐 砖ֶׁ注讜ֹ砖ֶׂ讛 讛讜ּ讗 讞ַ讙 诇ְ注ַ爪ְ诪讜ֹ 讜ּ诪讜ֹ讚ֶ讛 诇ְ讻讜ֹ讻ָ讘 砖ֶׁ诇ּ讜ֹ 讜ּ诪ְ拽ַ诇ְּ住讜ֹ 讘ְּ讬讜ֹ诐 砖ֶׁ谞ּ讜ֹ诇ַ讚 讘ּ讜ֹ 讜ְ讬讜ֹ诐 转ִּ讙ְ诇ַ讞ַ转 讝ְ拽ָ谞讜ֹ 讗讜ֹ 讘ְּ诇讜ֹ专ִ讬转讜ֹ 讜ְ讬讜ֹ诐 砖ֶׁ注ָ诇ָ讛 讘ּ讜ֹ 诪ִ谉 讛ַ讬ָּ诐 讜ְ砖ֶׁ讬ָּ爪ָ讗 诪ִ讘ֵּ讬转 讛ָ讗ֲ住讜ּ专ִ讬诐 讜ְ讬讜ֹ诐 砖ֶׁ注ָ砖ָׂ讛 讘ּ讜ֹ 诪ִ砖ְׁ转ֶּ讛 诇ִ讘ְ谞讜ֹ 讜ְ讻ַ讬ּ讜ֹ爪ֵ讗 讘ָּ讗ֵ诇ּ讜ּ 讗ֵ讬谞讜ֹ 讗ָ住讜ּ专 讗ֶ诇ָּ讗 讗讜ֹ转讜ֹ 讛ַ讬ּ讜ֹ诐 讜ְ讗讜ֹ转讜ֹ 讛ָ讗ִ讬砖ׁ 讘ִּ诇ְ讘ַ讚. 讜ְ讻ֵ谉 讬讜ֹ诐 砖ֶׁ讬ָּ诪讜ּ转 诇ָ讛ֶ谉 讘ּ讜ֹ 诪ֵ转 讜ְ讬ַ注ֲ砖ׂ讜ּ讛讜ּ 讞ַ讙 讗讜ֹ转ָ诐 讛ָ注讜ֹ砖ִׂ讬诐 讗ֲ住讜ּ专ִ讬谉 讗讜ֹ转讜ֹ 讛ַ讬ּ讜ֹ诐. 讜ְ讻ָ诇 诪ִ讬转ָ讛 砖ֶׁ砖ּׂ讜ֹ专ְ驻ִ讬谉 讘ָּ讛ּ 讻ֵּ诇ִ讬诐 讜ּ诪ְ拽ַ讟ְּ专ִ讬诐 拽ְ讟ֹ专ֶ转 讘ְּ讬ָ讚讜ּ注ַ 砖ֶׁ讬ֵּ砖ׁ 讘ָּ讛ּ 注ֲ讘讜ֹ讚ַ转 讻ּ讜ֹ讻ָ讘ִ讬诐. 讗ֵ讬谉 讬讜ֹ诐 讛ֶ讞ָ讙 讗ָ住讜ּ专 讗ֶ诇ָּ讗 诇ְ注讜ֹ讘ְ讚ֶ讬讛ָ 讘ִּ诇ְ讘ַ讚. 讗ֲ讘ָ诇 讗讜ֹ转ָ诐 砖ֶׁ砖ְּׂ诪ֵ讞ִ讬诐 讘ּ讜ֹ 讜ְ讗讜ֹ讻ְ诇ִ讬谉 讜ְ砖ׁ讜ֹ转ִ讬谉 讜ּ诪ְ砖ַׁ诪ְּ专ִ讬谉 讗讜ֹ转讜ֹ 诪ִ驻ְּ谞ֵ讬 诪ִ谞ְ讛ָ讙 讗讜ֹ 诪ִ驻ְּ谞ֵ讬 讻ְּ讘讜ֹ讚 讛ַ诪ֶּ诇ֶ讱ְ 讗ֲ讘ָ诇 讛ֵ诐 讗ֵ讬谉 诪讜ֹ讚ִ讬谉 讘ּ讜ֹ 讛ֲ专ֵ讬 讗ֵ诇ּ讜ּ 诪ֻ转ָּ专ִ讬谉 诇ָ砖ֵׂ讗转 讜ְ诇ָ转ֵ转 注ִ诪ָּ讛ֶ谉: Mishneh Torah, Foreign Worship and Customs of the Nations 9:5 (5) The day on which the idolators gather together to crown a king and offer sacrifice and praise to their false deities is considered to be one of their holidays, since it is comparable to their other holidays. In contrast, on a day which is celebrated by an individual idolator as a festival on which he gives thanks and praise to the star he [worships] - for example, his birthday, the day on which he shaves his beard or hair, the day on which he returns from a sea-voyage, the day on which he leaves prison, the day on which he makes a [wedding] feast for his son, and the like - it is forbidden [to do business] on that particular day only with that individual man. Similarly, when [it is customary] that the day on which one of them dies is marked with festivities, it is forbidden [to do business] with those individuals on that day. Whenever [a person's] death is marked by the burning of his utensils and the offering of incense, we can assume that idol worship is [involved in the ritual]. The [above] prohibition applies only to those who worship [the false deity]. In contrast, it is permitted to do business with those who join in the celebrations by eating, drinking, and observing it as a matter of custom or in deference to the king. 砖讜"转 讗讙专讜转 诪砖讛 讗讜专讞 讞讬讬诐 讗:拽讚 讗讘诇 讗讬谉 讝讛 砖讜诐 注谞讬谉 讜住诪讱 诇讛讞砖讬讘 讝讛 讚讘专 诪爪讜讛 讜住注讜讚转 诪爪讜讛, 讻讬 讛讜讗 专拽 讻砖诪讞讛 砖诇 讬讜诐 讛讜诇讚转 讘注诇诪讗. Responsa Igrot Moshe O.C. 1:104 However, there is no notion and allusion to consider this as a mitzvah and joyous meal, for it is like the joy of a mere birthday. 砖讜"转 讗驻专拽住转讗 讚注谞讬讗 讞诇拽 讗 住讬诪谉 拽讻讙 讜讗讙讘 讗讝讻讬专 诪讛 砖诪爪讗转讬 讘讻转讘讬 诪讜"讞 讛讙讛"爪 讝"诇 讘砖诐 讛讞转"住 讝"诇 讚讗讬谉 诇讬砖专讗诇 诇讞讜讙 讬讜诐 诪讜诇讚转讜, 讻"讗 讗转 讬讜诐 砖谞讻谞住 讘讘专讬转讜 砖诇 讗讗注"讛, 讜注讬' 讘住驻专讜 转讜专转 诪砖讛 驻' 讜讬专讗 注"驻 讘讬讜诐 讛讙诪诇. Responsa Afarskea De'anya 1:123 As an aside I shall mention that which I found written in the writings of my teacher and father-in-law, the great righteous one, in the name of the Hatam Sofer, that a Jew ought not celebrate the day of his birthday but the day he entered into the covenant of Avraham. See his book Torat Moshe Parshat Vayera on the verse "on the day that [Isaac] was weaned." Rabbi Bejamin Blech Next week is my birthday, but I won't be celebrating. It's not because I'm not sentimental. And it's definitely not because I don't like parties. It's because a few years ago I noticed something remarkable in the Torah that made me rethink the whole idea of giving special significance to the day I was born. There's only one time in the entire Bible that we read about a birthday party. The guest of honor, who in all probability planned it for himself? Pharaoh, the king of Egypt, whose birthday bash we read about in the book of Genesis. Aside from this non-Jewish leader, whose lifestyle certainly doesn't deserve to be emulated by us, there isn't a single mention of a birthday celebration by any one of our people. Why the strange neglect of what we would think is a significant day worthy of celebrating and rejoicing? Another occasion that Jews do celebrate yields an answer. On the anniversary of the day of death of a loved one, the yahrzeit, it is our custom to share food and drink with others. It is then, with the passage of time, that we can reflect upon all that was accomplished by our departed as well as the legacy of their achievements. We have a right – as well as an obligation – to celebrate a life that we can now in retrospect acknowledge as having been well lived. But birthdays link us only to the day of birth. When we are born, we have as yet accomplished nothing. We have no more than potential, alive to face the challenges that will confront us but with no assurance that we will overcome them successfully. "God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well." Birthdays don't really deserve applause because they commemorate nothing more than our first appearance on the stage of life. Voltaire put it well when he wrote, "God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well." How we play our role is the great test of our character. 砖讻诇 讟讜讘 讘专讗砖讬转 驻专砖转 讜讬砖讘 驻专拽 诪 讬讜诐 讛讜诇讚转 [讗转] 驻专注讛... 专讜讘 讘谞讬 讗讚诐 诪讞讘讘讬诐 讬讜诐 砖讛讜讗 转砖诇讜诐 砖谞转谉, 砖讛讜讗 讻谞讙讚 讗讜转讜 讛讬讜诐 砖谞讜诇讚 讜砖诪讞讬诐 讘讜 讜注讜砖讬谉 讘讜 诪砖转讛. 讗驻住 讻讬 讗谞砖讬 注讬专 讛拽讜讚砖 讗诪专讜 讻讬 讛讜讗 讬讜诐 讙谞讜住讬讗 砖诇 诪诇讻讬诐, 砖诪讘讬讗讬谉 住驻专 讬讞讜住讬 讛诪诇讻讬诐 讜拽讜专讗讬谉 诇驻谞讬 驻专注讛. Sechel Tova Bereishit Vayeshev Chap. 40 The day Pharoah was born... The majority of people love the day on which their year is complete, for it corresponds to the day on which they were born, and they rejoice and throw a party. 讛讜砖注 讝׳:讛׳(讛) 讬֣讜ֹ诐 诪ַ诇ְ讻ֵּ֔谞讜ּ 讛ֶ讞ֱ诇֥讜ּ 砖ָׂ专ִ֖讬诐 讞ֲ诪ַ֣转 诪ִ讬ָּ֑讬ִ谉 诪ָ砖ַׁ֥讱ְ 讬ָ讚֖讜ֹ 讗ֶ转־诇ֹ爪ְ爪ִֽ讬诐׃ Hosea 7:5 (5) On the day of our king the princes make him sick with the heat of wine, He stretches out his hand with scorners. 诪爪讜讚转 讚讜讚 注诇 讛讜砖注 讝׳:讛׳:讗׳ (讛) 讬讜诐 诪诇讻谞讜 . 专''诇 讘讬讜诐 砖诪讞转 诪诇讱 讬砖专讗诇 讻讬讜诐 讛诇讬讚讛 讗讜 讬讜诐 讛诪诇讻转讜 讗讝 谞注砖讜 讛砖专讬诐 讞讜诇讬诐 讘注讘讜专 谞讗讚讜转 诪讛讬讬谉 讻讬 讛专讘讜 诇诪诇讗讜转诐 诇砖转讬讛 讜谞注砖讜 讞讜诇讬诐 诪专讘讜讬 讛砖讻专讜转: Metzudat David on Hosea 7:5:1 (5) The day of our king. Meaning, on the day of a king's rejoicing, such as the day of birth or of his coronation. At that time the officers became ill from the wine flasks, for they filled them up too much for consumption and became ill from the quantity of drunkenness. 转诇诪讜讚 讬专讜砖诇诪讬 专讗砖 讛砖谞讛 驻专拽 讙 专讬讘"诇 讗诪专 注诪诇拽 讻讜砖驻谉 讛讬讛 诪讛 讛讬讛 注讜砖讛 讛讬讛 诪注诪讬讚 讘谞讬 讗讚诐 讘讬讜诐 讙讬谞讜住讬讗 砖诇讜 诇讜诪专 诇讗 讘诪讛专讛 讗讚诐 谞讜驻诇 讘讬讜诐 讙讬谞讜住讬讗 砖诇讜. 诪讛 注砖讛 诪砖讛 注讬专讘讘 讗转 讛诪讝诇讜转. Jerusalem Talmud Rosh Hashanah Ch. 3 Rabbi Joshua son of Levi said, Amalek was a sorcerer. What did he do? He would put up people [to fight] on their birthdays, as if to say, a person does not quickly fall on his birthday. What did Moses do? He mixed up the constellations. 转谞讞讜诪讗 讘讗 驻专拽 讟 讘讟"讜 讘谞讬住谉 谞讜诇讚 讬爪讞拽 讘讟"讜 讘谞讬住谉 谞讙讗诇讜 诪诪爪专讬诐, 讘讟"讜 讘谞讬住谉 注转讬讚讬谉 诇讛讙讗诇 诪砖注讘讜讚 讙诇讬讜转. Tanchuma Bo Chap. 9 On the fifteenth of Nissan Isaac was born, on the fifteenth of Nissan they were redeemed from Egypt, on the fifteenth of Nissan they will be redeemed from the exile. 诪讜注讚 拽讟谉 讻״讞 讗:讻״讟-诇״讗专讘 讬讜住祝 讻讬 讛讜讛 讘专 砖讬转讬谉 注讘讚 诇讛讜 讬讜诪讗 讟讘讗 诇专讘谞谉 讗诪专 谞驻拽讬 诇讬 诪讻专转 Moed Katan 28a:11 When Rav Yosef turned sixty, he made a holiday for the rabbis, declaring "I am exempt from excision." 诪砖谞讛 讗讘讜转 讛׳:讻״讗 (讻讗) 讛讜ּ讗 讛ָ讬ָ讛 讗讜ֹ诪ֵ专, 讘ֶּ谉 讞ָ诪ֵ砖ׁ 砖ָׁ谞ִ讬诐 诇ַ诪ִּ拽ְ专ָ讗, 讘ֶּ谉 注ֶ砖ֶׂ专 诇ַ诪ִּ砖ְׁ谞ָ讛, 讘ֶּ谉 砖ְׁ诇砖ׁ 注ֶ砖ְׂ专ֵ讛 诇ַ诪ִּ爪ְ讜ֹ转, 讘ֶּ谉 讞ֲ诪ֵ砖ׁ 注ֶ砖ְׂ专ֵ讛 诇ַ转ַּ诇ְ诪讜ּ讚, 讘ֶּ谉 砖ְׁ诪讜ֹ谞ֶ讛 注ֶ砖ְׂ专ֵ讛 诇ַ讞ֻ驻ָּ讛, 讘ֶּ谉 注ֶ砖ְׂ专ִ讬诐 诇ִ专ְ讚ּ讜ֹ祝, 讘ֶּ谉 砖ְׁ诇砖ִׁ讬诐 诇ַ讻ֹּ讞ַ, 讘ֶּ谉 讗ַ专ְ讘ָּ注ִ讬诐 诇ַ讘ִּ讬谞ָ讛, 讘ֶּ谉 讞ֲ诪ִ砖ִּׁ讬诐 诇ָ注ֵ爪ָ讛, 讘ֶּ谉 砖ִׁ砖ִּׁ讬诐 诇ַ讝ִ拽ְ谞ָ讛, 讘ֶּ谉 砖ִׁ讘ְ注ִ讬诐 诇ַ砖ֵּׂ讬讘ָ讛, 讘ֶּ谉 砖ְׁ诪讜ֹ谞ִ讬诐 诇ַ讙ְּ讘讜ּ专ָ讛, 讘ֶּ谉 转ִּ砖ְׁ注ִ讬诐 诇ָ砖ׁ讜ּ讞ַ, 讘ֶּ谉 诪ֵ讗ָ讛 讻ְּ讗ִ诇ּ讜ּ 诪ֵ转 讜ְ注ָ讘ַ专 讜ּ讘ָ讟ֵ诇 诪ִ谉 讛ָ注讜ֹ诇ָ诐: Pirkei Avot 5:21 (21) He [Yehudah ben Teima] used to say: Five years [is the age] for [the study of] Scripture, Ten [is the age] for [the study of] Mishnah, Thirteen [is the age] for [observing] commandments, Fifteen [is the age] for [the study of] Talmud, Eighteen [is the age] for the [wedding] canopy, Twenty [is the age] for pursuing [a livelihood], Thirty [is the age] for [full] strength, Forty [is the age] for understanding, Fifty [is the age] for [giving] counsel, Sixty [is the age] for mature age, Seventy [is the age] for a hoary head, Eighty [is a sign of superadded] strength, Ninety [is the age] for [a] bending [stature], A hundred, is [the age at which one is] as if dead, passed away, and ceased from the world. 砖讜"转 讻转讘 住讜驻专 讬讜专讛 讚注讛 住讬诪谉 拽诪讞 讛谞讛 讘专讱 诇拽讞转讬 诇讬讜诐 诪讜诇讚转讬 讗' 讚专"讞 讗讚专 砖讛讙注转讬 讘注讝讛"讬 诇砖谞转 讞诪砖讬诐, 讜讛讜讚讬转讬 诇讛砖讬"转 讘专讘讬诐 注诇 砖讛讞讬谞讜 讜拽讬诪谞讜 诇讝诪谉 讛讝讛 讜讘专讜讱 讬转"砖 讛谞讜转谉 诇讬注祝 讻讞 诇诇诪讜讚 讜诇诇诪讚, 讻谉 讬注讝专谞讬 诇诪注谉 砖诪讜 讜转讜专转讜, 注讚 讝拽谞讛 讜砖讬讘讛 讗诇 讬注讝讘谞讬 讜讗诇 讬讟砖谞讬, 讜讬讛讬' 注诪讬 讻讗砖专 讛讬讛 注诐 讗讘讜转讬谞讜 讛拽讚讜砖讬诐 讝爪"诇 诇讛讙讚讬诇 转讜专讛 讜诇讛讗讚讬专讛, 讜诇讙讚讜专 驻专爪讬 讛转讜专讛 讗砖专 专讘讜 讘注讜"讛... 讜注砖讬转讬 讘讬讜诐 讛讛讜讗 讝讛 讛讬讜诐 注砖讛 讚' 诇讬 住讬讜诐 诇诪住' 驻住讞讬诐, 讜讗诪专转讬 讘讬讜诐 讗 讚专"讞 讘注"诪 讜讜讬注谉 讘专讘讬诐 讘住讬讜诐 讛诪住讻转讗. Responsa Ktav Sofer 178 Behold, I have blessedly taken my birthday, the first day of Adar, on which I have reached the age of 50, and I have thanked God publicly for having enabled us to live, and sustained us to this time. And the Blessed One be He, who gives strength to the weak to learn and teach, may He assist me for His sake and that of His Torah, to old age that he not leave or abandon me. And may He be with me as He was with our holy fathers to increase Torah and glorify it, and to fence in the breaches of the Torah that have increased, due to our sins... And on that day, the day God fashioned for me, I made a siyyum on Tractate Pesachim. And on the first of Rosh Chodesh Adar I delivered a public talk upon the tractate's completion. 砖讜"转 讞讜讜转 讬讗讬专 住讬诪谉 注 住注讜讚转 讘谉 砖讘注讬诐 砖讬砖 诇讛住转驻拽 讗驻讬诇讜 讝讛 讛讘谉 砖讘注讬诐 诪讘专讱 砖讛讞讬谞讜 讻讬 讻讱 谞"诇. Responsa Chavot Yair 70 The meal for one who turns 70, there is a doubt as to whether this individual recites "Shehechiyanu," for so it appears to me. 驻专讬 诪讙讚讬诐 讗讜专讞 讞讬讬诐 诪砖讘爪讜转 讝讛讘 转诪讚 讜住注讜讚转 讘谉 砖讘注讬诐 砖谞讛 讜讻转讘 砖诐 讛讞讜转 讬讗讬专 砖诪讘专讱 砖讛讞讬讬谞讜, 讜爪"注. Peri Megadim O.C. Mishbezot Zahav 444 And regarding the meal of one who is 70, the Chavot Yair wrote there that one recites Shehechiyanu, but the matter requires analysis. 讘谉 讗讬砖 讞讬 (驻专' 专讗讛 讗讜转 讬讝) 讬砖 谞讜讛讙讬诐 诇注砖讜转 讗转 讬讜诐 讛诇讬讚讛 诇讬讜"讟 讘讻诇 砖谞讛 讜砖谞讛, 讜住讬诪谉 讬驻讛 讛讜讗 讜讻谉 谞讜讛讙讬诐 讘讘讬转谞讜. 讜砖诪注转讬 砖讬砖 谞讜讛讙讬诐 诇注砖讜转 住注讜讚讛 讘讬讜诐 砖谞讻谞住 讘讜 讘讘专讬转讜 砖诇 讗讘专讛诐 讗讘讬谞讜 讘讻诇 砖谞讛 讜砖谞讛 讜诪谞讛讙 讬驻讛 讛讜讗 诪讗讚, 讗讱 诇讗 谞讛讙谞讜 讘讝讛. Ben Ish Chai (Re'eh 17) Some have the practice to celebrate a birthday as a holiday every year; it is a fine symbol and such is the practice in our home. And I heard that some have the practice to make a meal on the day that one enters the circumcision of Avraham each year, and that is an extremely fine practice, although we do not personally have this practice. R' Aryeh Leibowitz Responsa Aparkasta D'anya (123) records that the Tiferes Yisrael insisted that his children write notes of mazal tov to each other on their birthdays. The custom to send a birthday card, while far from any form of halachic obligation or established custom, is a fine way to make others feel good about themselves, which is obviously a fulfillment of V'ahavta l'reacha kamocha. Sefer Hakatan V'hilchosav (chapter 84) writes that the Jews of Yerushalayim made a birthday celebration for their rabbi, Rav Shmuel Salant, in honor of his seventieth and eightieth birthdays respectively. As a form of celebration, Rav Salant sent the amount of coins corresponding to his age to tzedakah. The K'sav Sofer also used his birthday as a time for personal reflection. Kuntros Ohel Leah (written by the son of the K'sav Sofer and printed at the beginning of K'sav Sofer al haTorah) records an incident when a student went to visit the K'sav Sofer and found him crying. The student asked his rebbe what the reason for his tears was, and the K'sav Sofer responded that it was his 54th birthday and he began to judge himself (dan, the Hebrew word for "judge" has a gematria of 54) and realized that he has not accomplished nearly as much as he should have in his 54 years in this world. He sensed that he was lacking in torah knowledge and righteousness, and was moved to tears by this realization. |