Advice from the Shrink You are under no obligation to answer someone who stops you in the hallway to ask you a question, even if you do know the answer. Are you giving anything away, however, if you do? You carry your feelings wherever you go. Whether you feel good about yourself or you feel bad about yourself. You should be able to self-validate your own importance. What Other People say, think or feel about you should not bear witness on your testimony. These are all the things your Parents should have done for you, but no one is perfect. You cannot live your life successfully playing The Blame Game. Just because someone is a Jerk does not mean you have to talk back to them. There is a big difference. Don't take everything to heart and never argue with a Fool. People passing you by on the street may not be able to tell which is which. Don't buy into Other People's negative opinions of you, and your value. Everyone loves a good victim. Don't be one and don't let anyone else make you feel like one. If there is a Blame Game out there, simply just don't play it. Just because someone starts a fight does not mean you have to finish it. Easier said than done. You are a worthwhile, valuable, and important person, but you are not better than anyone else. And no one else is any better than you are. Treat yourself with respect, like your feelings matter. You don't need to beat people up to prove to yourself that you are alive. And you do not have to feel bad about yourself just because Other People lack an accurate accounting of who you are. You don't deserve to be treated like crap, by anyone, including yourself. Update your files on who you really are and don't take things to heart. You cannot be omnipotent; you have no way of anticipating someone else's stupid actions. It is this inner doubt that triggers your own over-reactions. Who gets to choose whether I feel good or I feel bad. You can choose, of course, You can feel good about feeling good about yourself, whether you are buying a car, a mattress, or an option for better health. Remember to replace that empty feeling of the used candy bar wrapper with a feeling of self-worth, even on a cloudy day. When you take out the garbage, remember how much fun you had in making it. Love Yehuda Lave |
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